Do NOT strive for perfection!

1 Thessalonians 2:12 (NIV)
“… Encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory.”

A friend of mine is struggling with the human side of being a Christian man. As Christians we strive to be deserving of the love our God has for us. We were made in His own image and we should live up to that perfection, right?

Some people are not aware; God does not expect perfection from us. Have you ever heard someone say ” I can’t believe she did that, and she calls herself a Christian”? I recently saw this post on Facebook; “Gods children do not lie. If u r a child of God and go to church to worship Him u shouldnt be starting choas!!”
Like, wow!!
Here are my top five thoughts on being Christian.
1. Christians are far more critical of themselves than God will ever be.
2. The only judges anyone should ever care about is God and those judges in our judicial system. So Facebook poster, you are forgiven but your words mean nothing to me.
3. God expects you to live your best life. Not be the best at everything. Not be perfect all the time. Just be you and be the best you everyday.
4. You will make mistakes! The trick is to ask for forgiveness and to learn from those mistakes.
5. God’s Grace is a powerful thing. To know at all times that as long as you are truly sorry and seek forgiveness God will forgive you even if other humans don’t show forgiveness.

So to my friends who struggle with their mistakes give yourself some Grace. Forgive yourself for the wrongs you’ve done. Start in this moment to be the best version of yourself in every minute. Do not strive for perfection.

P.S. You might see that I quote Dr. Suess often. Yes, he is my favorite author.


It never fails, the weekend is busy and when Monday morning rolls around cuddling under the warm blankets feels so much more important than getting up for work. You hit the snooze button so often that now you have exactly fifteen minutes to get out the door. There is nothing to make for lunch so you decide to rely on the snacks you have hidden at work and the vending machines.

Proverbs 20:4 Those too lazy to plow in the right season will have no food at the harvest.

In other words… Prepare yourself for success. Speaking of Youtube videos… one of my favorites is Kalyn Nicholson and her GYST (Get Your Shit Together)day. Basically it is a reset day. A day to just take care of the things that fall through the cracks during your work week. There are four categories to her GYST day- workout, beauty, work and chores. For me the work category would be getting ready for the work week.
Since my house is in construction shambles I am slowly getting to a point of total organization and then I could fully implement this in my life. For now, I will do what I can in the busyness of my life.

Tuesday morning update:

Up at 4:30, coffee turned on, board meeting minutes and agenda done, dressed, ate breakfast and blog post done all before work.


Enjoying a Renewed Spirit

“I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh” (Ezekiel 11:19).

The other day I blogged that I feel lost. As with anything, facing your feelings gives them relevance. Examining my breakdown, helped me to give these feelings a voice. My overwhelming urge to take a lower paying job with less hours just because it gives me greater flexibility is not something I can financially think about right now.

My first task was to make a lateral move in my job. Instead of being responsible for a unit and doing the same rooms every day, now I float so I am on a different unit each day. It gives me the perception of flexibility and has made me a bit happier.

The second thing I did was to pick up a weekly calendar that was divided up for four different people. I outline the week with my kids and I. Also, I list the weekly menu on it. Our chores are listed there as well as any appointments we have. I have actually been using this system for a few weeks and I will be switching to a dry erase version in the new year.

When I take time for myself and have a relaxing bubble bath, I watch Youtube videos to learn new things and to time myself so I am not in there all night. I watched one the other day by Erin May Henry titled Ten Habits to Start before 2019

1. Do something new everyday
2. Declutter
3. Reframing
4. Meet new people
5. Start being honest with yourself
6. Get Organized
7. Budget and take control of your finances
8. Stretching or yoga
9. Journaling or Reflecting
10. Laugh

My top five, the ones that I am personally working on right now are:

1. Decluttering- make sure your environment is not sucking the creativity from your soul. My house has been in a constant state of construction for the past year or so. I need to just find myself a corner to call my own so I can GYST. (Get Your Shit Together *More about that in my next post).

2. Get organized- Use your planner and calendars together. If you write it, do it. I have been doing pretty well I just have to keep at it and do better.

3. Budget and take control of your finances- Know what you have and stick to your budget. This is the personal goal I have been trying to tackle all year and finally figured out last night what I have been doing wrong so its back to the drawing board for me.

4. Start your day with stretching or yoga- stretching keeps your body in balance, increases your energy and decreases the stiffness in your muscles.

5. Journaling or reflecting- “It’s really hard to feel empowered and motivated to move forward on your journey if you don’t know how far you’ve come.”

With that, I have a starting point of how to move forward. This blog post is a day late but I did it. Always be proud of the progress you make.

When I am lost

Jeremiah 1:9-10
Then the Lord put out his hand and touched my mouth. And the Lord said to me, “Behold, I have put my words in your mouth. See, I have set you this day over nations and over kingdoms,
To pluck up and break down,
To destroy and overthrow,
To build up and to plant.”

Everytime I get the urge to just open the bible at any random page, it surprises me that the words speak directly to me. Today is no exception. As a writer, my creativity is a gift from God. His words flow through my pen and my keyboard. For the past year I have felt the decline in my creativity. Words have been hard. My grief has somehow blocked my focus and possibly my faith.

A few weeks ago I broke.

It had been a year since my Alex, born to my stepdaughter seventeen weeks early, lost his long eight day fight.

I have been so preoccupied with achieving personal goals this year that I have lost every ounce of creativity left in me.

I started the year with a full time job to catch up on these bills and now I have no time for anything else. I have stopped volunteering. I have stopped writing. I feel like I have lost touch with who I really am.

I now need to pick up the pieces and move on. I need to prioritize my schedule so I have time for the things that are important to me. I need to make the time to write. I need to make the time to volunteer more. I need to realize and believe that my faith gives me the strength I need to do all things. Nothing is impossible with God.

Just look at everything I’ve been through already in my life. I can dig my way to the surface. I will find the woman I know is stuck inside.

Board Member Search

Hello! My name is Mary Weeks and I am A Woman of Strength!

A Woman of Strength will provide a foundation of resources for Domestic Abuse Survivors to provide basic needs and a loving home for thier family.

As a start up we will provide awareness and fundraising events to build that foundation.

We are currently in the start up phase building our way to ultimately provide housing for these families who crave a safe living environment.

I am now accepting resumes for volunteer board members. Resumes are a formality because we are doing the Lord’s work and following His plan. If it is in your heart to apply then you are qualified in the eyes of the Lord.

We are looking for 6 members. 2 domestic abuse survivors looking to pave the way for others. We need some professionals to help us navigate the world of non profits. If you have any background in legal, real estate, finance or social work please make sure that is included in your resume. We are located in Buffalo/West Seneca, New York.

Please feel free to tell your story in your cover letter. My advisors and I will pray over every application and contact you for an interview.


Dear TracyMarie,

I miss you. I am worried about you. Once upon a time your life was incomplete if you missed a Sunday at church, now I can’t even tell you the last time I’ve seen your smiling face.

We were supposed to meet for lunch several times but you cancel last minute; often while I am sitting at the restaurant waiting.

I remember in high school you used to tell me your dad was an alcoholic so you would never get drunk. Now that seems to be your weekly excuse.

I know relationships are a two way street. I know you want me to sleep over your apartment. You know alcohol and weed are not my thing, you are asking me into a world you know I feel uncomfortable.

I know love is blind.
I know you think he’s good to you.
I know you think he is your everything.

Can you see he controls how your money is spent?
Can you see the gifts you give far outweigh the gifts you receive?
Can you see he is pulling you away from your family and your friends?

I know your answer will be, you don’t know him like I do. You don’t know how much financially it takes to keep an apartment and still go to school. You can’t see how much he loves me and gifts don’t make a relationship.

Please just take one step in the direction of you. Reinstate your commitment to God. Please start coming to church again. Tell me to mind my own business. Never speak to me again. I don’t care as long as you are happy. Making God a priority in your life will put you back on the right path. Say a prayer. Come to church. Listen to the Holy Spirit whisper on your heart.

I Love You Always,