I Love, love, love facebook. I love to see what the people in my newsfeed are doing and how thier life is going. I love to encourage people when they are feeling down. I love to read blogs posted, view posted pictures and find out about interesting events around me. I however do not like the drama, the pouty faces and cell phone pictures taken every two minutes by some model wannabes.
Here are five common mistakes that you may be making without even knowing it that make you look like the drama queen you claim to hate so much.
1. Posting about the same problem over and over and saying that things are going to change. If you are posting the same thing for over a year either make the change or shut up. Here are some actual status messages from the same person and the date posted you’ll see my point.
February 2013 – “
Never fails! Just when you think everything is good and the dust has finally settled, BAM! Smacked upside the head again! This will be the last time for this shit…!!”
February 2013 – “It amazes me to see all these young kids/teens on here constantly complaining about how bad their lives are. Really?! You live at home with no bills and go to school. You might have a job as well but that just builds the foundation of what the real world will be like. Seriously quit whining and go to school! End rant…
January 2013 – “Its wonderful knowing people think they can shit all over me time and time again because I’m the sap who always forgives and forgets. Why can’t people just like/love me for me and stop dumping all over me constantly?! I’m not perfect but I don’t deserve this. I’m so sick of this LIFE! 😦 “
December 2012 – “I see my kindness has once again been mistaken for weakness and I was actually told that “I put myself in the predicament”.. Soooo from here on out there is no more nice guy at all. Rules are rules and they are to be followed with NO exceptions. If you don’t like this, you know where the door is and please feel free to walk out of it. I’d be more than glad to hold it open for ya! Nighty night! :)”
October 2012 – “So f@#*ing aggravated today. Been like this since 6:30 am. I seriously hate this shit and if it doesnt change soon I’m going to lose it! So sick of not being heard or treated as if I’m so insignificant that what I want doesnt matter. Pretty soon its gonna be to late and then what you want WONT matter! Maybe its time to listen to ME for once. F@#* this day!”
Seriously, since my husband and I have friended “Amanda” we have been playing the is Amanda in a bad mood today game. There is a post like these at least once a week. Maybe she needs a new job or a vacation we do not know but it seems everyday is the last straw. Can you spell Drama Queen?
2. Posting about your financial problems and bragging about things you’ve just spent money on. Seriously folks you have a major plumbing issue you don’t know how to pay for please stop buying concert tickets. Need a new car because the one you’ve been driving for ten years is unreliable please put your two cruises on hold and buy a car instead. Better yet put cruises on hold for a couple years to put money in an emergency fund for any emergency that may come up. I am a mom. I am wearing sneakers my mom gave me last year because I would rather wear “holy” sneakers to afford sneakers for my kids. I would love to go on a cruise, or any vacation for that matter but I would rather feed my kids and afford thier medication.
3. Commenting on someone’s status message to make thier problem look smaller and putting the attention on yourself. I had a friend post a question about her childs’ recent diagnosis on the autism spectrum. Her child was not diagnosed with autism but at the top of the spectrum. She actually had a friend that posted her son was diagnosed with Autism at the age of two and was not expected to ever be verbal and that she should be happy the diagnosis wasn’t worse. The conversation instantly changed to sympathy for this other woman and no one ever answered the mom’s question. If I had known the answer I would have helped but I did offer coffee if she needed someone to just talk with.
4. Airing your relationship laundry for all to see. Everyone has arguements with thier significant other but if you are blasting them every other day for minor infractions for leaving the seat up, the pile of dirty socks next to the bed or forgetting to run the dishwasher people are going to start feeling sorry for the poor individual.Susie is a nice girl but she “yells” at her husband in facebook posts three times a day. My single friend is trying to get him to leave her but his love is so strong that he chalks it all up to stress and lets it ride off his shoulders.
5. Do we really want to hear for the fifth time that your poor daughter is being bullied in school and they won’t do anything about it? You know darn well the reason they won’t protect your daughter anymore is because she is the biggest bully of the school. You say she won’t listen to you and she acts like a brat at home. She is inconsiderate and expects everything she asks for. she also gets everything she asks for. You say she would never bully anyone because she knows how it feels to be bullied but in reality she has bullied so many people that no one wants to be around her anymore. She needs consequences for her actions and since her parents won’t do it, the kids at school are.
I am sure we have all made these mistakes from time to time. I have posted about arguments with people, they knew who they were but not everyone of my friends knew who I was posting about. I have found that I enjoy reading these as much as I used to like people watching at the bar in my younger days.
I have finally found my inner strength through facebook posts. I like to spread quotes that are important to me at the time. Most are in the form of sharing some of the inspirational photos in my newsfeed. Next time you are typing a status message think about what that message is really saying. Is it saying what you really want it to?
What facebook posts would you like to see a lot less of?
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